Dating Scene....What's really going on?

So call me old fashioned...no really I don't mind. I actually prefer it. I'm a wholesome girl born and raised on the south side of Chicago. I grew up in a single parent home. My Mother raised me with good strong Christian values. I went to private school and just was not into the things that most girls in my generation were into growing up. My Mother never brought men home, she modeled the behavior of a God Fearing LADY in front of me.

As I grew and became interested in boys, My Mom talked to me folks. She explained to me what "courting" is and laid out the "do's and don'ts" of dating. She really helped me to understand my worth as a woman. As a result of this coupled with life experiences, I've developed my own set of dating standards. There are certain things that I desire and things that I will absolutely not tolerate. I provided this back story to help you understand what is fueling the burning question I have to pose to you now. "What in the heck is going on with the dating system in our society?" (For real...For serious)

Since when did it become okay for men to not even TRY to date/court you? Let's examine the definition of dating here for a second.

Main Entry:³date

Function:verb

Inflected Form(s):dat·ed; dat·ingDate:

15th century

1: to reckon chronologically 2: originate dating from college days> 3: to become dated 4: to go out on usually romantic dates

See no.4 people? "To go out on usually romantic dates". Merriam Webster says a date means going out.

So now back to the questions at hand: What the fux up with dating in our society? I meet men, and as soon as they find out I live alone they invite themselves over to my place (unsuccessfully I might add). But just the audacity alone is bugging me out folks. I've had some heated debates with men about this. I had to seriously analyze this situation and here's what I cam up with:

1. Some Men have not been taught how to properly date/court a woman. So they don't understand the concept.
   
2. Some Women have not been taught to command respect from men. Therefore, they settle for less than ideal dating circumstances.
3. hanging in the balance are desperate women who are unaware of their self worth and the men who have been spoiled/ruined by them. (Both equally responsible for this poor state of affairs)

Now this is all in my very humble opinion. But I do have some suggestions on how to remedy the situation. First of all, we could all use a lesson in self respect and respect for others. That can easily be achieved by learning that you MUST treat people the way that YOU want to be treated. Next, we must forgive past transgressions and heal. The whole punishing folks for the acts of previous cats syndrome has got to cease and desist (immejiatelayy). Finally, we must not settle. It's okay to be picky. It's perfectly fine to know what you want and not accept anything less than those heart's desires. However, be willing to be the best YOU that you can. Don't expect someone to give you the world if you aren't willing to give it back to them in return.

I feel that if we start thinking and applying a few common sense factors to our dating process, we'll all be much happier in the long run. I've decided that the cobweb club is precisely what I need to clear my head and command the type of attention from the sort of man that I desire to have in my life. Does it get lonely sometimes? Hell yes...but I can not settle, I've done it before and the pain of gambling with your body and your heart is not worth it. I'd rather wait for Mr. Wonderful...'cause I truly believe he's out there and I'm so ready to be his Mrs. Wonderful.

Think about it....don't talk about it...and be about it. Yes you can! Yes we can do better!